An incident occurred today that resulted in a fiend apologizing for something she did not do. I do not feel that she should have done this. By the very means of saying sorry she took upon herself the deed that she apologized for. This has two unforeseen undesirable consequences. One, she detracts from the doer the ability to learn from his own actions (however in this particular incident it is somewhat more complex). Two, she takes upon herself the guilt of the actual doer. This life has enough pain without attaching undeserved guilt. So, what can we learn from this. One, don’t apologize for anything that can’t be controlled by yourself. Two, when an apology is necessary, apologize to all involved/affected parties only once. Three, repair/resolve as well as possible. Four, move on!