Extrinsic Motivation | The Death Of Your Dreams

Extrinsic motivation. You probably know it is being motivated from outside sources – money, attention, rewards, medals, women, men, fame. Yeah…all those things. Turn on the radio and you are going to hear song after song about stacks on stacks or clubbing…really just listen and your imagination will run wild. Try hard enough and you… http://thebettermanprojects.com/extrinsic-motivation/ […]


A close family member passed on today. In reading all the beautiful comments from many many individuals who’s lives were enriched or touched by him, I wonder, did anyone stop to tell him during his life what they are saying now? Do we halt our lives long enough to say thank you in life? Share […]

Thoughts on feeling emotions

I dislike letting myself feel emotion that I deem too strong. Where possible, I choose too keep myself at a distance from any situation that may evoke a strong emotional reaction. If the event is unavoidable, I tend to make light of it, to diffuse the situation. I am doing myself a disservice. Feeling emotion […]

How do you treat people

An inner reflection! When you are unfairly treated. How do you respond? In kind? When someone makes a mistake, do you compound their pain by treating them badly? Do you strip away the remains of their dignity? No matter what has been done to you. Rise above. No matter what has been said about you, […]

Fragility of life

A few months ago a young father fell off a roof and died leaving behind a wife and three young children. This week an acquaintance died unexpectedly due to an illness. Life cannot be taken for granted. We wake each morning and go about our daily tasks with blinkers on. We take it for granted […]

Just do it

Have you ever postponed a task for no reason except that it was daunting? Then the knowledge of this outstanding thing weighs heavily on your mind. It lurks in the back of your mind, a constant pressure. Eventually factors conspire resulting in you begrudgingly sorting it out. The irony is that you realize in hindsight […]

As good as it gets

“What if this is as good as it gets?” (Jack Nicholson). At this moment in your life this is as good as it is at that moment. How you feel about it is up to you. At that moment there is nothing you can change about what is or isn’t. You can either appreciate what […]

Difficulty in decision

I read a quote recently that went along the lines that the biggest mistake one can make when deciding to do something, is to not make a decision. There are times when we delay deciding a course until that choice is no longer ours. The greatest gift humanity is given is freedom of choice. Wars […]